How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome in Adolescents

How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome in Adolescents – Don’t we often think like “I don’t think I deserve this position” or “I think I’m really stupid, don’t I”??

Today, I want to talk about a bias called Dunning Kruger Effector slang “Impostor Syndrome”

Dunning Kruger Effect

So based on a study from Professor Dunning & Kruger, it turns out that sometimes we likeoverestimate‘ our abilities even though maybe our knowledge is not that deep.

And when we already know a lot of things, we tend to ‘underestimate’ our abilities. That’s why, sometimes we like to think, “Why is this person so PD, even though his skill is B?”

However, people who are smart and capable in their fields are actually humble and not arrogant, in fact their enthusiasm for learning is higher than ordinary people. The answer is probably because smart people know how much they don’t know.

In fact, he tends to still feel stupid because he can see many things that others may not see.

Meanwhile, others may only be able to criticize or act smart. So is it natural that sometimes we feel stupid and unworthy? Yes, very reasonable. Humane even.

But again, if we feel stupid, do we even sit still and do nothing?

That’s what I think is not quite right. I also often get Impostor Syndrome.

Feel stupid? Once.

Feeling unworthy? Very ever.

But that is precisely what fuels me to keep learning and improving myself.

How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome in Adolescents

There are 3 principles that I think are important for us to survive from Impostor Syndrome.

#1 Stupid is OK. Most importantly, don’t be stupid.

What is the difference between a Fool and a Fool?

Simple.

I think that stupid person already knows stupid, but I can’t say. I know I’m wrong, but I don’t want to learn. So it’s stuck there. Duh Usually, when said, these magic words that come out of his mouth..

“The main thing is”

“Anyway, I don’t know.”

“Anyway, this is what I think is right”

Well, it’s hard to talk to people like that, right? Want to foam up too dizzy. Have you ever been in that situation? I very often.

How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome in Adolescents

What’s the difference with “Stupid”?

In my opinion, a fool knows he doesn’t know. So, he wants to learn to fill gaps in knowledge.

Also, stupid is not completely negative, if we look at it in the context of growth.

It’s like elementary school children being asked to work on algebra problems.

It’s hard right? I’m sure that elementary school children will feel really stupid.

Because yes, he doesn’t know that algebra has an answer. And that’s REASONABLE.

So, keep learning until you can understand the concept.

All problems must have an answer.

From elementary school, you’ll move up to middle school, then to high school. So when we feel stupid, we just level up. So yes we have to learn new things and keep going.

That’s why the Dunning Krugger chart goes forward because yes it depicts growth.

The problem is, we don’t want to learn new things, outside our comfort zone?

#2 Looking for what is our strength.

Like I said in my thread & podcast, growth has to be intentional. Can’t come alone.

And we can grow faster if we can focus and eliminate things that may not suit us. When we like something, it will definitely become our strength. Because when we do it, everything is flowing and we feel happy.

But right, we’re still suffering from impostor syndrome, we’re not really that confident with ourselves.

How do we find out what our strengths are?

In the past I was taught to find out what I “LIKE” and “CAN”. This exercise is quite unique, because it is very logical.

When we want to “flow”, we must start to move from the things that are visible. Later self-confidence will build itself. Here’s an example of what I did for myself:

CAN: Public Speaking, Solving Problems.

LIKES : Writing, Talking.

So yeah, I’ll start from there.

So, I ventured to make a Podcast, and started sharing my thoughts on Twitter. Why not make it on Youtube or Instagram?

Now I don’t feel confident, then I think the visual preparation should be more proper.

And because I want to focus on the content, I prefer to look for the medium with writing and sound first. Maybe later I want to try there, but now I feel more comfortable through writing and voice first.

So, yes, I don’t need to feel inferior if for example a friend of mine makes content on YouTube and Instagram.

Because I know what I CAN and I LOVE.

Sometimes, I also realize that Impostor Syndrome occurs because we compare ourselves to other people.

Isn’t that right?

But knowing what we CAN and LIKE, it will help us know better where we want to grow, and not look left or right.

#3 Trust the process.

To grow, it must take time, it needs to be processed.

The name of the process is definitely not good and there is nothing for a moment. But the timing is definitely right.

Let’s just make the cake, when it’s baked in the oven.

If it burns too long. The speed is not mating. Adi, just be patient in the learning process.

If the process continues to fail. Yes, I’ll try again tomorrow.

If it keeps getting stuck, then try to find a new way.

Don’t give up in the middle of the process, and have to be patient so we can get out of the process with good learning. If I flashback to a few years before I was in this position, it took me about 6-7 years to study to get the concept of Marketing & Leadership that I can apply in my current position.

long right? But yes, it’s called a process, it must be long and uncomfortable. In the midst of generations who need Instant Gratification, it turns out that patience is the main key needed to grow.

Here is a quote from Leo Tolstoy. What I really like is that it describes Process and Time.

Come on, those who may feel like they have Impostor Syndrome, keep learning and don’t give up in the middle of the process.

Here are 3 principles that work for me:

#1 Stupid is OK. Most importantly, don’t be stupid.

#2 Looking for what is our strength.

#3 Trust the process. Thank you for reading this article!

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